‘We lie the loudest when we lie to ourselves’ – Eric Hoffer.
We’re already a couple of days into a new year and with any luck, you’re not hating yourself yet. You’re probably keeping your resolutions and if you’re not then you have altered them so ‘technically’ you haven’t broken them because the specifics ‘don’t count’. I hear you.
I’m your new best friend though because I am here to inform you that it doesn’t matter at all if you’re not sticking to your new year regime because in the end, it’s not important. What is important is honouring your failures, acknowledging your empty promises and channelling them into something far more substantial: the truth.
Each New Year’s Eve I try to think up all the amazing things I can change about myself for the following year, all the things I’ll start doing for other people too. I’m going to run a marathon, I’m going to get more involved in ‘stuff’, I’ll do a handstand every day and I’ll help the less fortunate. I’ll be a sprinting, multitasking – gymnastic – Mother Teresa. I’ll be unstoppable. Look at me go. It’s all well and good for the first month as I convince myself I’m on top of things but by March I’m a mess with zero energy to do any of the things I originally wanted and equally as little heart left to begin again.
Quit beating yourself up, you shouldn’t run a marathon because you think it will cure you, you should run it because you are capable and willing to learn from it. You are not broken, you are whole and you can accept the challenge. If you don’t succeed then it’s not your time and you can begin again knowing that you are all the better for it. Living isn’t about relying on the world to fix you, it’s about how a little part of you can fix the world. If you’re honest, you don’t win or lose – you make a difference.
If you want to prosper you need to start acknowledging the already amazing qualities you possess, then you will realise that maybe there isn’t that much you need to remove. If there is something which you want to improve, do so because you want to become a better version of yourself – not a better person. We spend our days comparing ourselves to those around us, the internet is a land of constant insecurity monsters ready to make you feel awful about your choices, ideas, personality and appearance. It also makes us jealous and jealousy is pointless. ‘Jealousy is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die’ – Carrie Fisher. If you’re going to make a difference you need to do so because you want to influence, not overthrow.
Step back and tell yourself the truth, because only with the truth, can you make a difference.
Words : Erin Grant
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